Getting ready for the seaside

So, after quite a few years I am going to the seaside this summer.

It has been an incredibly long time since I last went to the beach. So I figured, hey why not follow this idea of mine and just go to the nearest seaside in a long time, Brighton. Sure it is a train ride away but still. I thought, well, I have a couple of days off of work in a row so I thought hey, lets go to Brighton for a night.
It seems to be that I am following more and more impulses, sometimes the impulses lead to spending some money. But I thought it was about time I start living. I want to be living more than I used to, I am feeling my freedom.
So even though I am feeling my freedom and choosing what I want I am still going to find ways to save money. So I have booked into the Travelodge because I know there is a consistent standard that can be expected, mainly cleanliness. I think I have probably seen way too many episodes of Hotel Hell. Travelodge just seems like a standard basic but hygenic option. But I couldn’t just go on the site and book a room, nope I decided to go through topcashback simply because hey why not… I got just under £4 back. No complaints there.
Next up comes the joy of calculating train fares and working out how to make it cheaper. Well… It is looking likely that just getting a return ticket will be my best route sadly. Either way its going to be at least £30 as long as I can time it as off-peak. Though that works out OK for me because I am not sure I will want to do early mornings to go enjoy some time at the beach.
So the plan so far is to get there about lunch time-ish, have some lunch somewhere probably on the beach. Then go check into the hotel, get changed and go out to dinner and the arcade. I don’t think it’s entirely worth booking an early check in. I’m not planning on taking a big old bag either so it won’t be too much hassle to carry it around. So obviously the dinner means time to sleep and bed. The next day, get ready and get checked out. Find some breakfast somewhere and probably go back to the arcade or something. Eventually I suppose I should hop on the train home.
But I am looking forward to my little trip to the seaside. I wanna get a stick of rock, it’s an old thing, but still, why not. It’s traditional.
So outfits? Well, travelling there, shorts and a vest top with trainers. The change of outfit for dinner? A nice new t-shirt that I got a few sizes too big to use as a dress, some nude flip-flops and a belt and necklace to make the outfit look super cute! I reckon the most make up will be some mascara and lip balm. I even got a silly hat to hopefully keep the sun off of the tattoos on the back of my neck.
I am taking factor 50 sun cream to prevent looking like a lobster.
So with any luck this little mini break night away will make a refreshing change and I will come back feeling ready to keep at it. But I know I am going to have tonnes of fun because I am not going alone. The other half is coming with me, so I don’t doubt that I will have someone to keep my thoughts distracted, especially when he gets into the arcade. So hopefully he will have just as much fun as I hope to have.
I can’t wait to just spend some quality romantic time away from “life” without thinking about work.
Anyway…
May luck and adventure be on your side.
ARA
xxx
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The 2018 Project

So it seems to be that not many of these goals so far can be ticked off. However I have now created a writing schedule. And with that comes a regular day to day schedule. Which so far has been tricky to stick too but I am determined to try.

Oh oh and I finished writing The Diary of Elliot Parker (4)!!! I forgot to mention… so that gets to be ticked off!!!!!! YAY

I haven’t finished the cable knit jumper yet. But I have just finished two scarves so I am hoping that can count maybe as a half a goal done?

Hair is still growing, though I think I underestimated the care that growing your hair out takes. I am still working on those daily positives and have added a further two notebooks for sort of related things.

At the moment fitting in that blue dress isn’t looking likely. But safe to say, I am enjoying this year abundantly.

24/7 Goals:

  1. Do Nanowrimo
  2. Write The Diary of Elliot Parker (4)
  3. Draft up book 2 of The Big Project
  4. Re-edit book 1 of The Big Project
  5. Edit book 2 of The Big Project
  6. Learn to drive
  7. See a West End show
  8. Complete at least one of the tattoos
  9. Improve on last year’s site views
  10. Keep learning guitar
  11. Create and keep a manageable writing schedule
  12. Look for/find an agent for The Big Project
  13. Finish the cable knit jumper
  14. Start and finish a cross stitch project
  15. Win the lotto jackpot
  16. Keep growing hair out
  17. Keep doing daily positive aspects
  18. Complete at least one minor savings goal
  19. Have Christmas wrapped up before October 31st
  20. Read around 12 books at least over the year for fun…
  21. Be more time efficient, come up with a better schedule.
  22. Fit into the blue dress again and go somewhere to celebrate it
  23. Begin writing the next big project for the site
  24. Enjoy 2018 as much as possible, be happy at every chance!!!!

3/7 goals complete!

One Year

So for those of you who aren’t aware, this week is the one year anniversary with my other half. So to interrupt regular scheduling… here is a bit of a semi random post.

I will be honest with you, this year, although it has had it’s challenges has been the happiest year of my life. It feels like I have been happier over this past year than I had ever been over my entire life collectively.

I wake up everyday so thankful to have someone so wonderful in my life. I think it has been fairly obvious that this happiness and amazing-ness has been a large part of why I haven’t been writing as much as I used to, but that is ok, because for once I let myself live more. It feels like we have been together so much longer because we have clicked in all the right ways, and at the same time it feels like it has been such a short time because it has been so much fun.

The funny thing is we used to live in the same area, down the long road for years and years and never met. But now we have and I wouldn’t change a thing. I am so glad I took that temp job without it we would never have met.

So how are we celebrating? Well the day before we are going to go to the DC exhibition in London as a treat to the most amazing man in my life. On the day? I think the plan is to go to the restaurant we went to on our very first official date. So I am a very happy girl for sure.

I better get going… gotta look my best this week…

The Diary of Elliot Parker

.: Entry One-Hundred and Seventeen :.

My name is Elliot Parker. It’s been weird recently, I broke one of my own rules. I got a matching tattoo with Dyl the other day. I know, I know. But hey, it was an impulsive thing. I just went with whatever felt right. I guess at the time I didn’t think it through much. I broke one of my own golden rules. But it was fun, I didn’t do it for any other reason. It was just a cute fun design that we both agreed on, I don’t know how or why that happened but hey. I think it started when he suggested we get a tattoo together on holiday. We got it when we got back though, in a place where we trusted the artist and we had fun. We did it on an absolute whim.

That’s the thing though, Dyl has this natural way of bringing out the fun silly me. To be fair, we have also been looking at rings together, so who knows. Part of me is like yes that is exactly all I want but the other part of me keeps trying to talk reason, that fairy tales don’t exist. I know our relationship is not fairy tale, but sometimes, it just feels so natural and like that is how it is meant to be. I just get a little scared sometimes. I think that is that old inner voice I grew up with, that one that tells you that good things don’t last. I want that voice to be wrong. Because I want us to last. I want that dream that Dyl and I have been working on building together. To have a home and family together. To be happy.

That is the other thing that worries me though, the home and family dream, I guess I stopped thinking about the things I used to dream of doing. The ambitions I had. Now it feels like I am trying to factor those in, factor in the dreams. I had more time to spend on my passions before the relationship and so sometimes I just wonder if I am doing a disservice to myself, but when I did devote the time into the passions completely I didn’t have a life. I didn’t feel free, I felt a lot more shackled to it. Like it was my only hope and my only shot at happiness. I don’t think I agree with that anymore. Sure I would love it if my passions made me successful. But that doesn’t mean I am not successful. I love that when I now sit down to do the things I am passionate about I make the most of it. Before it felt like I was a hamster on a treadmill, always running but getting nowhere. Now I have a focus and I know my time is limited to a degree. It is also what makes the scheduling of it much more important. Scheduling is hard enough.

When I look at life week by week I don’t seem to have enough hours in the day, or enough energy for each day.

But then again, is that my own laziness, I got so lazy at creating the universe around me, or trying to control it and just started to really enjoy it. I would love it if I could say, “I deliberately created this life and it is exactly as I wanted it and more.” Who wouldn’t want to tailor make their life. But the thing is does it really matter if I get super good at it? I am giving up the struggle of trying to achieve what I want and just sort of letting go. If it happens it will happen and that is probably what I have been missing. Deliberate creation means little if it isn’t celebrated in a way that works for you. Trying to control too much leads to exhaustion and stress and I don’t want my life to be about that anymore.

So I suppose the best thing I can really learn to do is deal with some time management exercises. Work out a day and a time that I can sit down and work on what I am passionate about. Work out when I get to have my me time as it were. While also factoring in that quality time building and maintaining a safe, secure and healthy relationship with Dyl.

I think there is a lot in the future for us. So I don’t doubt that when this diary reaches its last page that life will continue on. That is the great thing about a diary, it is a snapshot in time of what you used to think and feel and who you wanted to be. I hope one day when I look back I look at it and see how much I changed for the better, how when I let go of trying to make life happen how I thought it should be and just let life go on it became so much more than I could have ever imagined.

I think tonight, even though I have a little cold going, I am going to go to Dyl’s and make dinner when he finishes work. I feel like after such a wonderful week so far and making all those memories together, making a dinner together and relaxing on the sofa sounds like perfection. A little bit of time to re-adjust to the sort of reality. I want next year to be calm and peaceful and that will happen, I am ready for a settled year next year. Just getting on with things and spending time together and working on something I am passionate about. I want to feel inspired again. I am ready to feel inspired again, it has come to the point where I know what I need to get done and arranged all year around. I know what birthdays are when and that I need to start thinking about Christmas. Soon.

The Diary of Elliot Parker will release very soon… so here is the Pre-Order link for Ninety-One to One hundred and Twenty!  Releasing 22nd September 2018

Or if you want the whole collection in one neat and tidy book, here is the Pre-Order link for the Complete Collection! Releasing 13th October 2018

Author Update (August 2018)

What happened in August?

So maybe not as wholey exciting as July’s comic con trip but still really exciting.

I started a new schedule for the day to day to try to improve the amount of time I spend writing. I think if I am to speak honestly and openly about my experience so far this year when it comes to writing, it has been a particularly difficult year to write. I haven’t done nearly as much as I need or want to. That being said I am trying to change that and make a conscious effort to put more time into writing or creative pursuits. I think inspiration has been only part of the problem. Motivation and will power have been a cause for concern throughout the year on various topics. I think now I am really trying to put that time and effort in to really get a rhythm going. There has been a bit of a struggle I admit but that is hopefully going to change and the writing side of my life is very much becoming a priority for me.

Being very open now I realize that it is time that I change my old process of here and there grabbing at time for writing and now I am physically carving it out of my week to make the most of the time I do have.

I know I mentioned comic con, there will be a post about that soon I promise.

The diet is floundering somewhere out there in the universe because it seems I have given up on it a bit for now. My priority this month has largely been the new schedule and settling into it, after that I am going to make an alteration that will make me wake up a half hour earlier in the day on my routine to fit in exercise. Getting into a routine and habbit is tricky at the best of times and I already feel guilty if my schedule gets a little re-jig around or something is missed. I think the idea of a diet is feeling far to restrictive given this new change in my day to day, so I suspect making a conscious effort to be healthier and eat healthier should give me plenty of motivation.

What am I watching on Netflix? Well, to be honest, I am still watching Pretty Little Liars again. Out side of Netflix the other half and I are still watching the Agents of Shield which is awesome and we are on season 3 now. It makes me want to do a lot more cool stuff.

I have been reading recently, Richelle Mead’s “The Glittering Court” which honestly took me a while to get into, I didnt have much focus, but I have been putting in a little time each day for myself to read.

So this schedule stuff? What have I hoped to be able to fit into a day? Well assuming it’s not my single day off to relax day, each day should be beginning with a half hour meditation before breakfast. Then when I am some semblance of human (washed and dressed) is what I have named “vortexing” it consists of a fifteen minute meditation, followed by making brief notes on what I learned on my meditation and then I read roughly a chapter of a law of attraction book, a couple of notes on what I retained from that (all of which tends to take under fifteen minutes). Assuming it isn’t a work day, I then spend half hour planning an agenda for the day or what I plan to get done for the writing side of life. I set myself an hour of small tasks to start to ease and warm me up in terms of writing followed by what I have called large tasks. That largely involves writing chapters. Towards the evening, about half hour before bed I make time to write the positive aspects of my day down, a little bit of reflection and some time to pre-pave the next day.

So goofing off time? That bit between being productive, then dinner and before bed? Well in that time my self made list of acceptable activities include: reading, netflix and knitting. That is pretty much it. So I suppose I might be trying to even be productive in my down time (the knitting while netflix and the reading) which is an upside.

I am hoping to really get a handle on developing the schedule and routine next month. I keep trying and then I get lazy, its like when that new school year starts, you have great intentions but little follow through at making all the grades. I used to set such unrealistic goals that I struggled and then failed then I beat myself up about it. It was a vicious circle and I don’t want to be beating myself up on not sticking to a schedule. But I need a real routine to get anything done.

I will be slowly cutting back on my posts a little bit to allow myself some time to really focus on some other writing projects that need my attention. At the moment that means that posts will be on Saturday’s and Wednesdays only from now on for a little while to really focus more on the quality rather than the quantity.

So Darling Daughters is OUT NOW , so for those of you wanting to get your hands on the ending… here is the link for Darling Daughters!  OUT NOW!

The Diary of Elliot Parker will release very soon… so here is the Pre-Order link for Ninety-One to One hundred and Twenty!  Releasing 22nd September 2018

Or if you want the whole collection in one neat and tidy book, here is the Pre-Order link for the Complete Collection! Releasing 13th October 2018

Nothing changes here in terms of throwing plugs in for my amazon books on my author page… I haven’t lost my hope just yet.

May luck and adventure be on your side!

ARA

xxx